Ask from people around you how the life of an orphan is like and they’ll have vague ideas from random stories they’ve read on the internet. This is because we aren’t frequently exposed to this part of the world. Whether you plan on becoming foster parents or just want to know more about the typical life on an orphan, this article will leave you thinking and reflecting for days. Once you’ve read this, there’s no going back to ‘not knowing’.
Waking up in an unfamiliar place surrounded by new faces with everyone telling you it’s your ‘home’ now. Waking up every day with a gut-wrenching feeling of loneliness with children who also feel alone and helpless. Going to bed every night not knowing how many days, weeks, months, or even years you have to spend there without experiencing the love and support of a parental figure. Spending each day in the hope of someone to adopt you and make you a part of their family.
This is how the typical life of an orphan is like.
Entering and living in an orphanage changes an orphan’s life. On average, they stay in foster care for 30 months to 2.5 years. Once you see reality from their eyes and witness their desperation for permanency, it’ll change you.
While the purpose of orphanages is to provide these vulnerable children with a shelter they can call ‘home’ and a nurturing environment they can grow in, even the best facilities aren’t the optimal placement for them. Here’s how orphanages may change the life of an orphan.
Losing the Sense of Permanency
Life of an orphan is continuously changing. With caregivers and orphans coming and going, no relationships are permanent. These vulnerable children quickly learn that people leave and there’s no continuing contact with them.
Getting Used to a ‘Structured’ Life
Life at an orphanage is fairly structured. Orphans are to follow a schedule that dictates when to wake up, get dressed, eat, and go to bed. Having a room full of toys with permission to play whenever they want is a foreign concept. They get used to getting help and demonstration from caregivers and find it challenging to engage in self-directed play.
Missing Out on Learning Family Skills
Orphanage life teaches survival skills and makes them emotionally stronger but these skills don’t come in handy when it comes to living in a family. When they get a chance to live with foster parents, they’re left to figure out new ways to have their needs met.
Learning That Self-Dependency is the Only Option
The sense of impermanency and shortage of resources make it hard for orphans to trust people. Despite being surrounded by people all the time, they feel lonely and disconnected. They learn they can only count on themselves.
Orphan Life Foundation strives to improve the lives of orphans with your help and support. You can become a sponsor or donate to give them hope for a better, brighter future. Let’s join hands to change the life of an orphan!